I get it, Boudoir can be such a mental block! Yes, even a fear.
It is hard to put ourselves in new or uncomfortable situations when we are unsure of the outcome. Most women don't normally wear lingerie. Many don't wear makeup. And rarely is someone used to being in front of a camera.
It's easy to get overwhelmed by all the "what if's." Being vulnerable with a complete stranger is SO BRAVE. I never take for granted the steps clients take to reach out and book.
I never expect anyone to come with any experience. Nearly all of my Clients are having their first ever session (but definitely not their last)! I always offer plenty of guidance and have everything you could need here at the studio.
From your first inquiry to product delivery, I am focused on building trust. I want to know how to best serve you, so my questionnaire delves into your favorite features and those you may want to minimize. Listening to your insecurities helps me create images you will love.
The steps I take as your photographer to make you comfortable:
- I create a welcoming atmosphere.
- I keep you distracted with flowing conversation.
- I ask if there's anything you need.
- I actively listen.
- We do a 3 minute meditation together to clear our heads.
- I demonstrate posing, and offer choices.
- I show you images on the back of the camera.
- I give positive feedback throughout.
- I will probably make you laugh, even if I'm not trying to.
You always have the control to change your mind, take a break, or ask for help. Boudoir tends to bring up many complex emotions. I am understanding that it can be a lot to process. Remember, stepping out of your comfort zone allows for growth. It enables you to expand your mindset and challenge old habits.
Is there ever any awkwardness? Nope! I am immune to awkward at this point.
To do before your session: Set an expectation with yourself that you will be open to receiving the experience. Visualize it! Picture yourself calm and at ease.
To do during your session: Trust the process. Stay present and be mindful of your emotions. Be vocal about your needs. If it's too much, take a few deep breaths. Remind yourself that you are safe.
To do after your session: Write a quick note to yourself. It doesn't have to be a massive journal entry! Jot down the feelings that arose: before the experience, during the session, and viewing your images. How did you process those emotions? If you had a bullet point takeaway, what would it be? That way, you can look back and recall those feelings.
I know you'll come out the other side more confident and, let's face it, proud for conquering this fear.